Q. My two-year-old daughter has a huge biting problem at her day-care. I get a note almost every other day that she bit someone. We have contacted her doctor, who says it is normal at this age. But I don’t think it is normal if it happens this often. We have done time-outs, talked to her, and spanked her, but she doesn’t understand that biting hurts and she should not do it. What can we do?
The panel began by talking about what not to do.
Q. Our two-year-old was so excited when we brought home her new baby brother, but she has now done a complete turnaround. She screams, cries and whines about everything. She only wants her mommy, wants nothing to do with daddy, won’t let him help her with anything or put her to bed anymore. She’s always been a fantastic sleeper, but now she won’t sleep in her own bed, and if she does, she is up at 3 a.m. and is in ours. How do we cope with a jealous toddler?
Q. My five-year-old son likes to play hide and seek, but it has started to become a problem because he will hide without telling me, whether at home or at the store. I become frantic trying to find him. He doesn’t always answer me when I call him, and I become afraid that he has gotten lost or that someone has taken him. When I do find him, he just laughs. I can’t get him to stop. What should I do: Put a leash on him when we go out?
Q. My six-year-old daughter entered first grade this year. By the end of the first week of school, my daughter started becoming tearful at home, right in the middle of fun activities. When I ask her what is wrong, she says things like, “Who is going to play games with me when you die?” I had no idea where this is coming from. I reassure her that I’m not going anywhere, and she calms down. But the next day, it happens again. It is really upsetting me that she is so consumed with thoughts of me or her father leaving her. What might be going on?
Q. My son started middle school this year, going from a small elementary school where everyone knew everyone else to a larger middle school with children from all over the district. I am really worried about who my son might pick for friends. How can I help him pick good friends? At his elementary school, all the families were close and we lived in the same neighborhood. How can I be sure that he will be safe and not get into any trouble when he goes to the homes of new friends?
Q. I recently had my first baby, a daughter, and I tried breast feed her, but I didn’t like it at all. I was not comfortable, and my baby fussed. I am much more relaxed with bottle-feeding, but I am getting a lot of pressure from my friends and family members. They say I am not doing what is best for my baby. Some of the women in my mothers’ group have made comments to me, as well. Now I don’t even want to socialize. I feel like I must be a bad mother. Please let me know if I am wrong for not breastfeeding.
“The Marvelous Wonderettes,” featuring pop hits of the 1950s and ‘60s, is rocking the stage at the Pines Dinner Theatre, Allentown, through Oct. 21.
A tribute not only to the songs of the era, but also to the high school song-leader squads that were organizing at the time, “Wonderettes” is by far one of the best of the jukebox genre of musicals seen at The Pines.
It’s a delightful romp through the heather in Munopco Music Theatre’s production of “Brigadoon,” the Tony-Award-winning musical about the Scottish village that comes to life only one day every 100 years.
The musical continues at 8 p.m. Sept. 28 and 29, Scottish Rite Cathedral, Allentown. The Sept. 21 opening night performance was seen for this review.
Q. My 10-year-old daughter’s father and I never married, and he has not been very involved in her life. I have been seeing a very nice man, and I think it is getting serious. What is the best way to introduce her to this new relationship, especially when she is used to it being only the two of us?
Panelist Mike Daniels said that it was a great opportunity to have a conversation about needs and relationships: “Ten-year-olds know about dating, and if the mother hasn’t had a conversation about this the daughter is making it up in her own mind.”
Q, I have been married to my husband for nine years now and for the last two years we have not been getting along. Our arguments have escalated into screaming matches with curse words that my five- and seven-year-olds hear. They are starting to act out at home and in school, not listening to teachers or following directions. Do you think our arguing could be affecting them and, if so, what can I do?