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Sunday, August 25, 2019

Respectfully Yours: The buffet line

Friday, August 23, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I went to an outdoor concert with my mother, three children and husband. There was an after-concert prix-fixe buffet. The children wanted seconds. Should one reuse a plate or get a new plate?

Dear Reader, Even though buffet meals are a fun way to enjoy a casual outing with friends and family, it does not give us carte blanche to behave with no consideration for other diners.

Respectfully Yours: Phone-free wedding

Friday, August 16, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have attended a number of weddings recently and I am shocked at people’s disregard during the ceremony. So many people were taking pictures with their phones. My wedding is next summer. How does one ask guests to refrain from taking photos during the ceremony?

Dear Reader,

Having an unplugged wedding ceremony and encouraging your guests to put down their devices doesn’t need to be difficult.

As with any request you make of your wedding guests, you simply need to be sensitive and respectful.

Respectfully Yours: Overstaying welcome

Friday, August 9, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

Some weeks ago, my husband and I invited another couple to our home for dinner at 6 p.m. I hadn’t seen them in years and my husband didn’t know them. They got to know each other over a nice dinner. Around 11 p.m., I was starting to get nervous because I had an important meeting in the morning. How does one politely tell a guest that it’s time to leave?

Dear Reader,

One of life’s trickier social situations is when you find yourself sitting across from guests who simply will not leave.

Respectfully Yours: Friend’s criticism

Friday, August 2, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have a friend I’ve known for a couple of years, who seems to criticize me as much as she can. She says things like “You look tired today” when I’m actually having a good day. She always starts these criticisms with “no offense.” I haven’t confronted her about this but it is really upsetting me. Is there a polite way to handle her criticism?

Dear Reader,

A person who is so critical toward you might be dealing with her own insecurities.

Respectfully Yours: Occupation tact

Friday, July 26, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

When I meet someone new, I always ask what they do for a living. This seems like good conversation starter, but I’m not sure if it’s polite. Is it rude to ask someone you just met what they do for living?

Dear Reader,

It’s not so much that the question in itself is rude as it is a matter of sensitivity of context.

I suggest starting off with an ice-breaking question to set the context so your question doesn’t come out of the blue. It’s better to start with “Tell me a little bit about yourself.”

Respectfully Yours: Loaned item

Friday, July 19, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

My neighbor borrowed my tree trimmer a while back and he hasn’t returned it. I would like to do some yard work and really need my trimmer. How do you politely ask someone to return something that you let them borrow?

Dear Reader, This happens to most of us. We kindly lend an item to someone, trusting he or she will return it as soon as they are finished.

Time goes by and we forget until we need the item. Now we find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation, embarrassed to ask for the item back.

Respectfully Yours: Job interview

Friday, July 5, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have a job interview coming up and it’s really important to me that I do well. I would really love to land this job. What are some etiquette tips and ways I can prepare for my interview?

Dear Reader,

Impressing the interviewer and landing the job you want is not just about your skills and experience.

The interviewer will be looking at the whole package, not just your qualifications, but your overall presentation. During a job interview, you will basically be selling yourself.

Respectfully Yours: Those PDAs

Saturday, June 29, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I stopped at a local convenience store to pick up lunch and was minding my own business. While I was waiting for my order, there was a couple across from me engaged in hugging and kissing that made me uncomfortable. Don’t people understand that public displays of affection make the people around them uncomfortable?

Dear Reader,

Public displays of affection come in a variety of forms.

Some displays of affection are accepted everywhere. Hugging and a quick kiss are not usually offensive and typically acceptable.

Respectfully Yours: Gossip reflects poorly

Friday, June 21, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have a friend who I really like, with one exception. She will tell me things others have told her and it makes me uncomfortable. It makes me wonder what she says about me when I am not around. I would like to be able to keep this friendship, but not being able to speak freely with her makes me uncomfortable. How can I steer the conversation away from gossip?

Dear Reader, Gossip is unnecessary, unflattering and reflects poorly on character.

It would appear your friend is someone who thinks gossip is innocent and makes it a topic of conversation.